6 Mantras to Help You Deal with Fear and Anxiety

6 Mantras to Help You Deal with Fear and Anxiety

This article goes out to all the twentysomethings out there, who sometimes have fear and doubt in their everyday life. It goes to all young woman out there, who think their decisions through about a thousand times. To all who spend too much time with the question „what if?“ and to those, who, like I do too, sometimes have a bad day, a bad week or even a bad month.

Some of us worry everyday, some only once a month and some only during difficult phases in their life. To have fear and doubt, to worry is part of our lives. The twenty somethings are not easy. Hell not easy! It happens so much. So many first times such as: moving out, moving in a new city, studying, a new job, a new environment, heartbreak, finding love and so much more small and large events. In the mid-twenties, you set the course for your life and that can be quite scary. In the mid-twenties so many ways get separated and in the same breath there are new doors that open. Many decisions we make in this stage of our lives are of a great importance and some might not be important at all but that we don’t realize  to this point of time. Summed up the twenty somethings are a real rollercoaster ride and everyone who denies that fact, is either living on a lonely island in the Indian ocean or has the Benjamin Button Syndrom.

What I’m trying to say is, that doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will and this you have to remember every day. Fear and worries are normal, just like up and downs in your life are. You just have to learn how to handle them properly and to remind yourself every day what your dreams are.

Today I want to share with you 6 mantras that will hopefully help you to deal with fears about your future and motivate you to tackle things and to realize how important you are in this world.

1. After rain there comes sun

Every one of us has phases in our life where we’re not well. Just a few weeks ago, I had such a bad week and a real creative blockade. I could not get one word on paper. I felt bad and was thinking about soo much at the same time. But in times like this, you always have to remember that this feeling doesn’t last forever. You just always recall that this bad feeling is not a permanent one. It’s not forever, you will get over it. Bad feelings come, bad feelings go. After the rain, sunshine is coming!

2. There is no perfect

Even though I am not a perfectionist, I have very high standards for myself. Again and again, it happens, naturally, that I can not fulfill these demands. Often I then throw everything and am disappointed with myself and would prefer to put a blanket over my head. But just because something is not perfect, it does not mean it is bad or even wrong. Sometimes it turns out even better. Nobody is perfect and no one expects that from you. There is not only black and white in this world and it will never be. Allow yourself not to be perfect!

3. It’s okay to feel bad

For some reason, feeling bad is still a shame. Isn’t it hip to o be always in a good mood? The reality is different. Everybody feels bad from time to time. A topic which is hushed completely more or less. But it’s human, so why can’t we talk about it? Whether it is anger, sadness, anxiety or a depressive phase: it is okay not being okay. It is okay to feel bad, it is okay to cry and it’s okay to be sad. Don’t ever hide or ignore your feelings. That makes the whole thing even worse. Find somebody you trust and talk about it. Get out there and gain power to restart.

4. Take a deep breath

Don’t be afraid so much of things that COULD possibly happen. Take a deep breath (abdominal breathing) and focus on the present. Think of all the positive things in the past and to come and try to focus on them. Don’t make yourself nervous. Try to stay calm, focus on your dreams and goals and breathe.

5. Do what you love!

Do what you love to do. Whether that is a profession, a hobby, a trip or something else – do what you love, do what you think is right and don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do it! The biggest things in live, they never happen by means of hands or head, but by passion!

6. Accept your own failures

To fail is human. Everybody makes mistakes. That’s life! But it is not the fault of which we subsequently draw as much experience? For sure, positive incidences also bring us forward, but from our mistakes, we learn so much more which will help us to cope with other difficult situations in the future. So instead of being disappointed or angry, be thankful for the experience and learn something from it.

Love, Valerie


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    28. December 2015 at 9:58

    Absolutely love this post. Thank you so much for sharing this. I’ve been having a great deal of problems with anxiety lately and really needed to read something like this!

    Love, Kerstin

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    28. December 2015 at 10:32

    EIn wunderschöner Beitrag Valerie, den ich zu 100% so unterschreiben würde <3

    Liebe Grüße
    Luise | http://www.just-myself.com

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    Sara Nuša
    28. December 2015 at 16:53

    Lovely post, I stuggle with anxiety a lot and these things really do help.


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    28. December 2015 at 22:32

    Meine liebe Valerie,

    das hast du ganz wundervoll geschrieben und machst damit sicher sehr vielen Menschen Mut, in schwierigen Situationen nach vorne zu blicken *schakka* Besonders mit Punkt 5 hast du mich gecatched 🙂 Aus eigener Erfahrung kann ich sagen, dass es das wirklich Wichtgste ist, seinem Herzen zu folgen.

    Ich drück dich und wünsch dir einen guten Rutsch ins neue Jahr!

    Liebe Grüße auch von Andre
    Julia von http://www.stylingliebe.de

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      28. December 2015 at 22:41

      Liebe Julia, vielen lieben Dank für dein Kommentar, das freut mich total!! Ich wünsche euch auch einen super guten Start ins neue Jahr und eine fantastische Silvesternacht. Ich hoffe wir sehen uns im neuen Jahr öfters 🙂 <3

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    29. December 2015 at 2:07

    I’ve always loved your lifestyle articles. I even have your “10 tips to live a happier life” article pin on my wall to look at everyday. But this is probably my favorite article from you so far. Keep up the good work ! ♥

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    29. December 2015 at 11:13

    Danke für diesen wundervollen Artikel, liebe Valerie!

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    29. December 2015 at 13:30

    Der Post ist superschön, Valerie und spricht mir zum Teil wirklich aus der Seele! Ich finds super, dass du inzwischen mehr so Lifestyle Beiträge machst!

    XX aus Nürnberg
    Want Get Repeat

    PS: Wir sehen uns doch hoffentlich im Januar in Berlin, oooder? 🙂

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    1. January 2016 at 13:51

    even though I am sweet 16 years old, it was very helpful for me to have read those points and to have them closer in my mind again – thanks!❤️
    xx hanna

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